To Moms with Sons

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To Moms with Sons…

If you’re anything like me, then your first thought when you found out you were expecting was, “Oh, yay! Now I’ll have someone to go shopping with” or “Now I have an excuse to buy all those tiny little hair bows!”

And then you found out you were having a boy.

You weren’t disappointed. You just needed a little time to get used to the idea of dump trucks and dinosaurs instead of baby dolls and dance recitals.

But I’m also guessing that shortly after he arrived, you quickly forgot about all of those things as you were immersed into the pure joy that is little boys. You forgot all about the frilly clothes and feelings as you dove headfirst into a world of roaring and fearlessness.

I’m sure it didn’t take you long to realize that, little boys? They’re pretty great.

And throughout your life, you’ll get to experience all of the special moments that only a mommy and her son can share.

When he’s small…

You’ll be his special girl.

You’ll be his one and only mama, the woman who cheers him on when he takes those first wobbly steps and laughs at all of his silly faces. You’ll encourage him to get back up when he falls but not before squeezing him tight and smooching those chubby, irresistible cheeks. You’ll be his safe haven, and he’ll be your little love.

He’ll be your protector, your little superhero, fighting off villains, monsters, and even the giant spiders in the basement.

He’ll teach you to always be an encourager, as you insist, “You can do it! You are so brave! Just try, try again,” after he falls off his new bike for the umpteenth time.

He’ll teach you how to fearlessly go after your dreams, as he climbs the mountain of pillows in your living room and dives head-first off the couch without hesitation.

You’ll be in the best shape of your life, as you race him through the yard “just one more time.”

He’ll teach you the art of being both soft and strong, as he defeats a giant dragon just moments before snuggling into your lap and covering your face with sloppy, open-mouth kisses.

You’ll learn not to stress and overthink so much, but instead to live out loud, and to just be and do, like him.

That son of yours will tell you everything you need to know every time he breaks out in a big goofy grin at the sight of you, a smile that says, “you’re the most beautiful, mama, and I love you so.”

He’ll make you feel like a million bucks without saying a thing.

As he grows…

You’ll be his special girl.

You’ll be his one and only mama, the woman he can always count on to believe in him, and assure him that he is the most amazing kid on earth. You’ll welcome him with open arms, encourage him to stop for flowers before his date, teach him the importance of being a good listener, and remind him to call whenever he needs you. You’ll be his safe haven, and he’ll be your little love.

You’ll savor every second of his arms around you, as you teach him a few basic dance moves in the living room, before he insists, “I’ll be fine, mom,” and escapes back to his room.

He’ll surprise you, as he rushes to open the door for his prom date, opening your eyes to the realization that maybe he was listening all those years, afterall.

You’ll be filled with pride as he walks confidently across that stage in his cap and gown, a distant cry from those first wobbly steps that are forever ingrained in your memory.

He’ll open up to you when things aren’t going well at his job, entrusting you with his feelings, and savoring your continued encouragement and wisdom.

You’ll be the first one he’ll call when he meets a girl that is different from the rest, because he values your opinion and knows you’ll share in his excitement.

He’ll fill you with overwhelming joy, as you watch him become a daddy and experience the same kind of love you feel for him.

And that son of yours? He’ll tell you everything you need to know every time he breaks out in a big goofy grin at the sight of you, a smile that says, “you’re the most beautiful, mama, and I love you so.”

He’ll make you feel like a million bucks without saying a thing.

And in your old age…

You’ll be his special girl.

You’ll be his one and only mama, the woman who was always his biggest fan, cheering him on through life’s ups and downs, and laughing at his silly jokes, no matter how many times you’d heard them. He’ll show up at your door, with a bouquet of flowers in his strong, open arms. He’ll encourage you not to use that wobbly old chair to reach the top shelf in the pantry, teach you how to fix that leaky sink, and remind you to call whenever you need him. He’ll be your safe haven, and you’ll be his little love.

That son of yours will have spent a lifetime telling you just how beautiful and loved you are, without ever speaking the words.

And as you close the door behind him, watching out the window as he drives away, you’ll catch a glimpse of the woman in the reflection, and break out in a big old goofy grin at the sight of her.

Because the woman staring back at you is the richest woman on earth, worth more than a million bucks.


(Ps. For the record, I happen to think those of you with little girls are equally blessed. As a matter of fact, this post is a spin-off of my original, and most popular piece ever, To Dads with Daughters

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Winter Mom Style Must-Haves

One of my resolutions this year is to minimize. Since becoming a mom, I’ve neglected my wardrobe so much, and whenever I DO finally shop for myself, it’s usually something cheap that doesn’t survive a wash or two. My closet is full of pieces that have shrunk, or haven’t been worn since before babies, or that I just plain-old don’t like. So, this year, it is my goal to update my wardrobe by investing in fewer, high quality pieces that I truly love. This way, I can finally minimize all the junk and feel good in the pieces I do have.

Because, let’s be honest, as much as I want… nay… DREAM of throwing out every last toy in our house, I probably shouldn’t throw out all of my kids’ new Christmas toys just yet.

As I’ve mentioned before, after shopping around forever, I finally found the greatest “mom-jeans.” I have this pair and this pair, and if I’m honest, I basically just rotate between these two pairs year-round. They are the perfect combo of stretchy + comfortable, plus they have a slightly higher waist to suck in my post-baby tummy.

The other company I discovered recently and LOVE is Evy’s Tree. They make “luxury hoodies.” I mean, are you KIDDING me, those two words in one sentence together? I’m in, and I’ll take 500, please. OK, ok, or maybe just a few, because you know, minimizing and all. But, these hoodies are honestly exactly what I need as a stay-at-home mom – sweatshirts that are comfortable and easy to nurse in, but also keep me from looking like a total shlub every day. The Samantha in Espresso is the hoodie above and has the cutest detail (what is it about thumb-holes that is SO great?), and the Diana in Winter White (below) is literally like wearing a blanket while still looking cute. As a Minnesota dweller, these hoodies have become my new wardrobe staples.

And my last recent winter wardrobe find are these Timberland booties! My husband got these for me for Christmas and I’m in love. I was getting sick and tired of just wearing my clunky winter boots around everyday, and wanted something cuter and lighter that I would still survive my treks across the icy Target parking lot in. These boots are the perfect solution!

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 Espresso Hoodie | Winter White HoodieJeans 1 | Jeans 2Timberland Booties

PS. In case you fall in love with Evy’s Tree like I did, here are a few more styles I own and absolutely adore: The Birgit, The Anne-Marie, & The Reece

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